Safe Dating Tips

for Internet Dating

When it comes to safety on the Internet, the best place to start is with you. Trust your instincts and use common sense.

Exercise caution and common sense - especially when it comes to taking an online relationship off-line. You have an advantage online because you can get to know each other before you meet. Remember that you don't need to take anything further than the computer or phone wires until you feel completely at ease. Following are a few cautionary rules to set for yourself:

• Set up an e-mail account just for online dating.
• Guard your anonymity - Remember that you are in control of your online experience at all times. You can remain completely anonymous until you feel ready.
  
• Go at your own pace!
• Request a photo!
• Chat on the phone before you take the next step of meeting face to face. Watch for red flags when you're talking --
• Pay attention to displays of anger, intense frustration or attempts to pressure or control you. Other red flags include:
  • Refusal to speak to you on the phone after establishing ongoing, online intimacy;
  • failure to provide direct answers to direct questions;
  • appearing significantly different in person from his or her online persona and
  • unwillingness to introduce you to friends, professional associates or family members.
• When you do decide to meet face to face, pick a public place and provide your own transportation to and fro.
• Tell a friend where you're going and check in when you return home.
• Always carry a Cell Phone.
• Never include your personal contact information in your profile, especially telephone numbers, email, home address or your last name, and only give them out when your instincts tell you this is someone you can trust. It's okay to take your time.
• Ask a lot of questions and watch for inconsistencies.
• Stay away from members who won't take no for an answer or pressure you for any kind of personal information. Serious Internet Daters will respect your space and allow you to take your time.

ALWAYS, ALWAYS -- If you feel you are in danger, call the police; it’s always better to be safe than sorry. Never worry or feel embarrassed about your behavior; your safety is much more important than one person’s opinion of you.