I met a woman the other day — one so needy she clung to me like an eel — I felt the life simply draining from me! All she could talk about was how much she longed to find her soulmate; how she was such a good and loving person she didn’t understand why men didn’t fall over themselves searching for her. I noticed my husband’s quiet withdrawal as she poured out her soul to us, her eyes clinging to our faces — especially my husband’s. She would often reach over and touch his arm. It amused me but I could tell he was becoming very uncomfortable. Later I asked him, “Why do you think she is having such a difficult time finding a decent man?”

“She’s too needy,” Walter replied. “I would run so fast I’d be a blur if she came within 10 feet of me.”

“But I thought men liked to be needed!” I responded.

“We like to be needed by women who don’t really need us,” he said with a grin. “A woman like that will smother you to death with her needs. She ought to find out who she is and be happy with herself before she trys to find a husband.”

So, the secret to a successful “man-hunt” or “woman-hunt” is to stop hunting and find yourself. Look within and learn to love the person you are; be happy and you’ll find other people are attracted to your happiness. Maybe that person will be your soulmate!

~Linda